The Top 5 Things a Man Needs in a Wife (from the book: ‘His Needs, Her Needs – by Willard Harley, Jr’)

Now, here is the other part of the story where we define the list of things a man want to see in his wife:


‎” The typical wife doesn’t understand her husband’s need for sex any more than the typical husband understands his wife’s need for affection. This need in men is so strong that it must be satisfied — in or out of the marriage. When a man binds himself in marriage, he makes the assumption that his wife will be available to him sexually. If that is not the case, it it sets the stage for an affair — which will be destructive to the marriage.”


The need to have fun with his partner is the second need Harley identifies for men. As already stated, we often put our best foot forward in the courtship and this is another area where there may be disappointment after the “I do”. “Why don’t you do this with me anymore?” is a common lament. Harley cautions wives that having fun together doing the things that you both like is essential to the marriage. “Men place surprising importance on having their wives as recreational companions.”


‎”A man with a need for an attractive spouse feels good whenever he looks at his attractive wife. In fact, that is what emotional needs are all about. When one of his emotional needs is met he feels fulfilled, and when it’s not met, he feels frustrated. It may sound immature or superficial, but I’ve found that most men have a need for an attractive wife. They do not appreciate a woman for her inner qualities alone. They appreciate the way she looks.”


He needs peace and quiet. There may be a cultural change/demand that says that men need to take more responsibility in the home for domestic chores, but most men are not embracing this change. The male has a deep need for his wife to “take care of things” — especially take care of him.


Why do males have this need? Admiration energizes and motivates a man and he often expects his wife to be his most ardent fan. He needs to be appreciated for what he IS, not for what he COULD BECOME. While criticism causes men to become defensive, his wife’s encouragement enables him to become more confident and enables him to achieve far more.

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Happy Reading !


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